Recipient of a prestigious STARRED review
in Publisher’s Weekly
WHAT IF I TOLD YOU THAT
REPETITIVE THOUGHTS AREN'T YOUR ENEMY IN MEDITATION?
WHAT IF WE ASKED OURSELVES
WHAT THIS UNIVERSAL HUMAN EXPERIENCE HAS TO SHOW US INSTEAD?
from ralph de la rosA, LCSW
and Shambhala Publications
Hope for all those who want to meditate but feel they can’t because they think too much: A remedy. Making friends with the infamous “monkey mind” to make it a means for healing and awakening.
It's a common story. Someone wants to take up meditation, but they take themselves to be one of those people for whom it just doesn't work because they think too much. And they give it up in frustration after an hour or a couple weeks or a year. But though it is often taken to be the scourge of meditators, repetitive and excessive thinking is an experience common to everyone. The Buddha famously called it "monkey mind," and that term has become nearly a household phrase. At worst, when people sit down to meditate and invariably find themselves distracted, subtle and not-so-subtle forms of self-aggression and self-recrimination tend to ensue over an experience that is as natural as it unpreventable. At best, the monkey mind is viewed as an obstruction to a deeper way of being; something to ignore, a pest to move beyond. Such an idea often crops up in today's mindfulness culture, in which a myth prevails that meditation is about "emptying out thoughts" or "shutting off the mind."
The truth is, says Ralph De La Rosa, repetitive thinking is a natural function of the human organism that, like all other aspects of our being, serves a purpose--one that is bound up with the activity of awakening. When we stop dismissing this tendency and instead turn toward it, we can discover far-reaching implications in service of well-being, emotional intelligence, cultivating lovingkindness, healing trauma, and developing compassion. Using psychotherapeutic, somatic, and mindfulness-based approaches, The Monkey Is the Messenger is a guide to working productively in meditation practice, in our psychologies, and even in the broader social issues that often lie behind threatening monkey-mind thinking. It will issue a call for readers to end the war they wage with themselves and to meet their minds in a manner that is appropriately informed, efficacious, and enjoyable.